Relationships are a part of life. Over the years, we develop relationships with friends, coworkers, family members, and for the majority of people, a significant other. Learning how to communicate effectively and resolve conflict is key to maintaining healthy relationships and mental wellbeing. Because wellness is a holistic concept that involves all areas of life, communication and conflict resolution deserve to be discussed. Here are some research based, study supported insights into relationships and healthy interaction.
Say “We” Instead of “Me”
According to research, people who used “we” instead of “me”, or “us” instead of “I” when in the middle of conflict were able to resolve things quicker and reach a point of mutual understanding/agreement with less struggle. When in a disagreement with someone, it is important to recognize and validate that his or her opinions matter, and that it is not entirely your way or the highway. Using a collective word like “we” helps with this. In doing so, both parties become more open to listening and hearing the thoughts and feelings of the other person, and resolution is achieved much quicker.
Move On After Arguing
Another insight that researchers have found is that it is important to move on after an argument instead of stewing on it for hours, thus making yourself and the other individual uncomfortable and unhappy. Once you reach a middle ground, decide to go from there and avoid bringing up the same issue or holding a grudge. Cool down, then get on with your life. Both parties benefit from the ability to resume normal togetherness.
Be Versatile and Willing
Everyone is different. Everyone has a different means of self-expression. Everyone has a unique perspective on any given situation. For this reason, it is important for mental wellbeing that you recognize one process or method of communicating might work for you, but might not work for someone else. Be versatile, and willing to put things in a way that the other person might understand more readily. In short, what works for you might not work for another, so recognize that you might need to think outside the box to meet someone’s needs and resolve conflict.
This one is key. No matter what you do, you cannot change another person. The only person you can change is yourself. Learning to accept things can help you find peace. However, it is important that both parties feel free to express their feelings, and that they do so respectfully and not at the cost of the other’s emotional wellbeing. Over time in every kind of relationship, you get to know the other person better and can understand their thought processes, priorities, and ways of communicating more readily.
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